Dating for special needs
It also means being a friend to the child — finding things you share in common, having real conversations with the child (not just small talk to kill time while you wait for your partner), but most importantly: no discipline.
If you are not comfortable with this or if you are bothered by the thought of dealing with this or dealing with the attention it may bring, consider that perhaps dating someone with a special needs child is not for you. Sometimes to prove that the idea of a special needs child doesn’t bother them, people will push to meet the child. As parents, we understand our children’s conditions and limitations better than you do, and we know our children best.If you disagree with how your partner disciplines his or her kids, it is not your place to step in and take over.Tread lightly if you decide to broach the subject with your partner — he or she has likely put a lot of thought into the discipline methods used and has very valid reasons for feeling that the way chosen is best for his or her children.Add to that that your partner is likely very stressed as a single parent of a special needs child, a working parent, and also trying to be your partner, and it is not likely that your comments will be taken as the constructive criticism you intend it to be.It’s also entirely possible that you are basing your thought that the discipline is ineffective or inappropriate based on what would work for a typical child.
We know when we will be ready to introduce you, and when our children will be best able to handle it.