But experts say that a large majority of the time, motivations differ by gender, with men searching for more sex or attention and women looking to fill an emotional void."Women tell me, 'I was lonely, not connected, I didn't feel close to my partner, and I was taken for granted,'" marriage and family therapist Winifred Reilly says.After a lot of contemplation, I've become absolutely sure that if you love someone and respect someone enough, you cannot cheat on that person. For the first time in my crazy, messed-up love life, I believe that I am truly in love -- madly, head-over-heels kind of love.The difference with this relationship is that I have a deep and profound respect for my boyfriend. The only time I would do something like that would be if I didn't honor him the way that I do.If you cheat on someone you're dating, you don't love that person. Let me just clarify this for a second, in case you missed it the first time: YOU CANNOT CHEAT ON SOMEONE YOU LOVE. Full disclosure: This article is kind of personal and very preachy. I believe that my past urge to cheat comes from never wanting to commit to a relationship -- but still selfishly wanting all the benefits of having one.
If you feel that counseling could be helpful, please look up counselors available in your area.Seeking company and a little romance, Thea became a member of Ashley Madison.com, a website that connects married people wanting to have an affair.Thea began an ongoing affair after a few dates with a man."He was giving me all of the stuff my husband wasn't -- attention and affection," she says.There are many reasons for infidelity such as revenge, boredom, the thrill of sexual novelty, sexual addiction.
He treats me beautifully, he challenges me, and he is there for me whenever I need him. I'm repulsed by the thought of letting another guy touch me. The idea of hurting someone I respect so much breaks my heart. If you cheat on your partner, you do not respect him or her enough not to betray stray. Your infidelity is all the proof you need that the two of you are not right for each other. I have loved each and every one of them in my own way. You can certainly care for -- and love -- a person you betray. (You two are in a relationship, after all.)But you don't love him or her . But this is what you need to understand: If you cannot sacrifice the touch of another person -- if you cannot resist the physical urge to screw someone else in favor of honoring your relationship -- you do not value that relationship enough.